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About Just Wanna Live Right

There are so many things that God is showing me in my Christian walk. And I want to share some of my life experiences with others. Life comes at you with some tricky hands and some of us feel like we have to live with the cards that we are dealt. But NO...you don't! God always gives us a way of escape! You don't have to do things the way the world does...you CAN do things the way God does. Let's talk about it...

Only God can judge you? ummm, that’s a lie…

Let me 1st say that I’m talking to Christians when I say this. If you don’t identify yourself as a Christian then I am not talking to you. And let me also clarify that I believe God is our FINAL judge. He is the one who will make the final decision on where you and I will spend eternity.

That statement, “only God can judge me” has been on my mind for a minute now. I see it everywhere…on Facebook, tattooed on someone, in meme’s. So I know I needed to write about it because God kept making me see it. Then one day while I was listening to the bible in my car, the story of Jethro visiting Moses came on. Exodus the 18th chapter. Can I tell you, I had to play it back 3 times! I left like God was saying, “Yes this is for your understanding.” I love how God will confirm what He is teaching and showing you. But before I go into that, I did a little research trying to find out where this phrase came from. There is no scripture in the bible that says, “only God can judge me.” That is NOT biblical.

In my research, many made mention that those who are believing and living their lives to this statement are those who do not want to be held accountable to their actions. This is a way out of being corrected, a way out of having discipline and being obedient to God’s will for your life. Humans are very good at changing the things that God established and making them fit their wants. Laws and standards have been put in place in the this world because, if we are left to ourselves…we would destroy everything and each other. It’s the sinful nature that we were born into. Now I’m not saying that you can’t be mature and make right decisions. What I’m saying is that many of us won’t govern ourselves, so the ones who choose to live right would have to contend with those who don’t.

And then I often wonder, why wouldn’t you want to be warned or re-directed here on earth? Why would want to continue in your wrong behavior and wait for God to discipline or judge you? I tell people all the time, don’t make God have to turn your life upside down to get to you because you continue to want to do life your way. He’s a loving God, yes but His wrath is no joke. When scripture tells me that He is longsuffering and wishing that none should perish, that tells me He takes time with us, He sends help, He sends people to get us back on the right path. But some are pushing their help away because they don’t to be told that their right is wrong.

Anyway…let’s get back to the Exodus story of Jethro and Moses. Jethro was Moses father-in-law and he saw Moses handling people’s disputes and teaching people the laws of God. But Moses was the only one doing it. It was becoming overwhelming because ALL the people were coming to him. Jethro tells him that he wasn’t doing it right. You will wear yourself out and these people as well. This is too much for you to do alone. Now let me give you some good advice, and God will be with you. It is right for you to represent the people before God and bring their disputes to him. You should teach them God’s commands and explain to them how they should live and what they should do. But in addition, you should choose some capable men and appoint them as leaders of the people: leaders of thousands, hundreds, fifties, and tens. They must be God-fearing men who can be trusted and who cannot be bribed. Let them serve as judges for the people on a permanent basis.

Ahhhhh….others where brought forth to judge. Capable men and women. God set forth people in the earth to help to judge. This is why I believe and scriptures tells me that God is the FINAL judge, but He has placed people in the earth to help give guidance and direction…because we need it!

There are many other scriptures that talk about how to judge people. So the Lord, set certain people aside to help judge and then wrote how to judge. How to be fair, how to carry yourself as a judge, He gave them standards and rules on judging. When you read them, look at the context of the them, where in was happening in scripture and in what time it was happening. Because rules and laws were different during different times of the world. Just like some rules and laws many not be for this time in the 20th century, so are the rules and times of the bible.

Read the bible for understanding. Not to point what is wrong in it. If you go with that mindset, you will miss so much understanding because you’ve already made up your mind.

God will judge you when you die. And then it will be too late to change your ways do things differently. Don’t put yourself in that predicament. Choose Christ today so you know where you will spend eternity.

Some of us don’t want to be judged because we are all over the place and need to make the decision to choose Christ and stick with it. You have gone back and forth with Him for a long time, but you haven’t been consistent. That is not how the Lord wants you to live. He wants your foundation to be strong and stable. God wants you to be like a tree planted by the water where the roots are deep and you can not be moved, because your source of life is right there next to you. God is your source of life.

One thing I am learning in my Christian walk is that God is re-teaching me. There were some things that I believed that were not really Him. My thinking was wrong. I also learned that the word hits us all differently. It is the same Word of God but it will speak to us differently according to our spiritual maturity and where we are in our walk. Be open to learn from the Holy Spirit, be open to grow and mature in Christ. And if you disagree, don’t throw it away. Bring it back to God and ask if it is for you. He will let you know and He will deal with you in that area. Be ok with God correcting you and showing you a new and different way of understanding Him. His way will ALWAYS be the better way! Trust!

If you were one of those people who people who believed that no one could judge you…make a comment and lets pray that you will see and receive the people and the help that God is sending you to make your crooked paths straight.

Do a word search and look up every scripture that talks about “judge or judging.”

I pray this was good reading for you.

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Control yourself…

Can’t control yourself regarding anger

Can’t control yourself regarding sex

Can’t control yourself regarding gossip

Can’t control yourself regarding telling lies

Can’t control yourself regarding drugs

Can’t control yourself regarding spending money

Can’t control yourself regarding cussing

Can’t control yourself regarding procrastination

Can’t control yourself regarding temptations

Can’t control yourself regarding men

Can’t control yourself regarding women

Can’t control yourself regarding gambling

All these things and then some others will eventually create problems in your life if you have no control over them. I have the feeling many of us have allowed situations to run free with no boundaries and no restraints that now it has become almost a norm in our lives.  We’ve allowed it so much room and dominion that we have lost control of it.  It rules us.

In 1 Corinthians 9:27: Paul is talking to the people of the Corinthian church and telling them that he must discipline himself, and keep his body under control. He does that to be an upstanding example to the people he is preaching to.  He won’t tell you to do it and he doesn’t restrain himself also.

“But I keep under my body, and bring it into subjection” (KJV)

“Instead, I discipline my body and bring it under strict control” (ESV)

But this also shows you that there is a solution to this issue. You can control yourself by keeping your body under subjection, disciplining yourself.  Saying…NO

Then there is Galatians 5: 22-23, that says “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control

Here we are shown that the Holy Spirit gives you a gift of SELF-CONTROL. So if you didn’t have it before, when you give your life to Jesus Christ you will receive the self-control you need to withstand the temptations of the world.  You will now have the Holy Spirit power within you to say NO.

Learn to use this power to crucify the affections of lust and regain back control over your life.

Remember, not all lust is sexual, meaning the things you want are not always sexual things, i.e. gambling, money, status.

Take some time to think about your life….are there situations, things, people that you have lost control in? You can’t function without them? It’s becoming unhealthy?  People mention or complain about it to you often? You lose time, sleep, and major moments in life because of it?

Take it to God. And find someone you trust that you can talk to you about it.  Someone who can give you godly advice.  I say that because if you are seeking the things of God….a worldly person cannot give you those godly answers.

Self-control is very important to your Christian walk. Because the devil uses temptation as a way of getting us off course, we need to learn early how to say NO.  And control ourselves so we don’t go back to old habits that kept us in sin.

I am praying with you.

What is your identity?

I was watching a Periscope one morning of Daniel Stombaugh and he asked the question,

What is your identity?

He said “know who you are TO God and know who you are IN God”

And I kept repeating it over and over in my mind.

Know who you are to God.

Know who you are in God.

Many of us know who we are at work, right? We know our job function and what is expected of us. Know how to get to work, what time to be there and how to get our paycheck.

Many of us know who we are at home, right? Know our role as a parent, as home owner, as a husband, as a wife, as a child.  We know where everything is and pretty much how to use it.  We even know how to walk to the bathroom in the dark.

In all our common knowledge and intellect, we are pretty comfortable.

But when you think about the things of God, what don’t we know?

Do we really know who we are to God? Do we really know how much He loves us?  Do we really understand the sacrifice that was made for us?  Are we totally conscious of His mercy?

Being loved by someone is a powerful motivator. It can give you an inner strength; it can give you a reason to wake up in the morning.  It can change your moods and brighten your days.  This is what God wants to be to us.  We also want to hear someone say I Love You!  Oh boy that would really take us over the edge. LOL and yet God does that every day…all day.  Are we paying attention?  God is love and that love is shown thru the beauty of nature and the fact that we open our eyes each day.  We are the apple of His eye.  A special people to Him.  He is longsuffering, which means he waits and waits and waits and waits for us to come to Him, completely submit to Him, because his wish is that none should perish.

Do you really know who you are in God? Where your strength comes from?  Who fights your battles?

Greater is He that is IN me than he that is in the world. (1 John 4:4)

Greater is the God in you than the devils in this world. You must remember that!

I believe having a solid understanding of what we mean to the Lord will help us to stay strong in Him. We won’t be so easily distracted by the enemy’s tactics, the depression, the hopelessness, the anxiety, the worry, the defeat that he tries to lay upon us.  If we truly could understand how loved we are we could be stronger in our fight against the enemy.  The enemy should not be able to so easily get us off course, change our moods, or tempt us, get into our thoughts and change our atmosphere.  God did not create us to be led by the devil or his tricks; He created us to be led by His Spirit!

KNOW WHO YOU ARE IN HIM!

Daniel Stombaugh also said something else in his Periscope that moved me….

Knowing your IDENTITY always brings your purpose.

So if you’re not sure where you fit in, how God wants to use you, or what your purpose is…figure out your identity in God. Seek ye first the kingdom of God and all His righteousness and ALL these things will be added unto you.  (Matthew 6:33)  Which means….seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.

How can you NOT acknowledge the Creator of your life in all that you do? What would make you think you should live this life never once giving honor to the one who gave you life?  We will love everything around us except God.

Jeremiah 1:5 says, “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart”

Luke 12:7 says,” And the very hairs on your head are all numbered. So don’t be afraid; you are more valuable to God than a whole flock of sparrows.”

Before you were formed, God placed purpose in you and God knows how many hairs are on your head! He is that intimate with you, knows that much about you.

Let me remind you that you were created with a PURPOSE but you have to make the effort to seek God to find what your purpose is. If you want it, go get it!

Press into God even the more so that you can be more intimate with Him. In His presence is assurance, confidence, love, peace and your identity.  Get to know Him, so you can know yourself.

I encourage you to get to know God on a more personal level this year. And if you’re not sure where to start in that relationship…reach out to me.  I will help you.  That’s what I am called to do.

Why am I here?

Listening to a Persicope live recording really can get you to thinking. Carla R. Cannon asked us this morning that as followers of Jesus Christ…why we are here?   She said “God reveals His will to us and communicates with us so we can fulfill His assignment in the earth.”

That was awesome to me!

Have you ever thought about why am I here? You may have it in your mind that you didn’t ask to be here…but there is a purpose for you being here on this earth.  Remember, Jeremiah 1:5 tells us that before you were formed in the womb, God knew you.  You were set apart.  Do you understand what that means?  God had already predestined a place for you before you even came to the earth.  He already had plans for you, a purpose ready for you. He was already thinking about you.

Carla says in the Periscope that you are not here just to build a great business, or a great ministry or to make a great name for yourself.

I wonder about that often, do we know why we are here. I believe if people really knew their purpose for being on this earth, we would do some of the things we do. We would plan better. We would take care of what we had better. Our outlook on life would be better.

The Lord does want you to have an abundant life, HERE ON EARTH. But also know that He has called you to a life that includes Him. A life that brings glory to Him. We are all called to one specific thing…

You are here to do your Father’s business!

So here is the big question…do you know what your Father’s business is?

Did you know that you are to live a life that worships God? Live a life that pleases God? Did you know that you are to imitate Christ, be Christ-like? Did you know that you are to share the gospel of Jesus Christ?  Tell someone about Him.  Lead others to Him.  Share your life as a Christian with them.  Help someone get closer to Him. And be an example of Him. Many have told themselves that their life with Christ is only for them. But that is not so….as a follower of Christ, we share our lives with others. Someone…everyone should know that you love the Lord and you live a life in line with His will.

But most importantly…be in a personal relationship with Him. Be intentional about making Jesus a part of your life.  It is in Him that we live, move and have our being.  He needs to be a priority in your life.

Why am I here?

Not for your own selfish pleasures, dreams, aspirations.  But to give God glory in those dreams and aspirations.  To give all honor to Him for showing favor in those dreams and aspirations.  To acknowledge that without Him you would not have these dreams and aspirations.  And then living out a life that gives Him honor, a life that imitates His life, a life of righteousness,  a life of holiness.  The Lord says, be ye holy for I am holy.  It’s not a suggestion…it’s a command.  And if you love the Lord you will obey his commands.

Why am I here?

Humble Living…

In my reading this morning, I came across this word. Humility.

And then I heard the Lord say “Humble Living.”

What is humble living Lord?

So of course I looked up the word. Humble means = a modest or low view of one’s own importance, unpretentious.

www.gotquestions.org mentions that humility is a heart attitude, not merely an outward demeanor. One may put on an outward show of humility but still have a heart full of pride and arrogance. Humility is a prerequisite for the Christian.

The Beautitudes in Matthew 5 states “Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.”  The poor in spirit are those who are humble, lowly.

I believe what the Lord shared with me this morning was a reminder for us. He seeks humble living from us.  The world can, at times can rub off on us.  If we do not have someone to keep us accountable, we can easily get off course.  If we don’t keep our focus on the things of God, we can easily get off course.  Remember, YES we live in this world, but as Believers we are NOT of this world.  We don’t act the way the world acts.  We don’t respond the way the world responds. We should be doing our best to not think the way the world thinks. Because the worldview is very different and contrary to the mind of God and the way God works.

In order to inherit the kingdom of heaven you need the power of the Holy Spirit to help you remain humble. This is not a character trait that comes easy to us humans who were born into a sinful nature.  We may be able to start the process of being humble, but to maintain and sustain it…we need the staying power of the Holy Spirit.

Humble Living.

I’m a big advocate of examining your life periodically. And making sure you are in right standing with the Lord.  Is your living humble?  How is your parenting?  How are your relationships?  How are your spending habits?  How is your behavior?  How is your Christian walk?  How are you getting along with others?  What is your social media interaction like?  How are you portraying yourself?  How are your thoughts?  What is your attitude like?  How is your stewardship?

I listed a few scriptures below regarding humility. Take some time and look them up.  And when you read them…read a few scriptures before and a few scriptures after…or even the chapter to see what was going on during that time and what was the point being made.

  • Philippians 2:3
  • James 4:6
  • 1 Peter 5:6
  • Romans 12:3
  • Colossians 3:12
  • Proverbs 11:2
  • John 3:30

I pray you will be informed and encouraged to do that which pleases the Lord.

And as always, we serve a forgiving God.  If you will repent (say your sorry and turn from your wrong-doing) he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. (1 John 1:9)

Being Christlike…what does that look like?

Here is another blog post I pulled out of the archive. I wrote this back in 2015. I pray this encourages, teaches and blesses you!

On 2 separate occasions just this week, God has allowed the opportunity for me to see how a soft answer turns away wrath.  Very simple, yet everyday situations caught me this week and I had to make myself stay calm and be kind.  And I purposely did this because I am trying to discipline myself to be in a Christ like mode at all times.  It’s not easy to always be kind and giving and loving to people, especially when we live in a world full of people who are hard to love.  This is not always easy to do but because I always want people to see the God in me, I have to remind myself when anger or frustration begins to rile up…that I must resist it.  Resist allowing the enemy to use me in a way that will be hurtful to someone else.  Don’t get me wrong, there is some life situations that will get me upset, but it’s how I react to them that God is paying attention to.  Be angry and sin not.  (Ephesians 4:26) If my anger causes me to cuss someone out, or hurt someone’s feelings, or discourage someone, or hit and be violent to them….that is wrong.

In one of the situations, I was bringing my son to his 1st day of summer camp.  On this particular morning they were very unorganized and couldn’t find any of his paper work or registration papers and the woman I was dealing with really wasn’t being very nice to me.  She kept saying that she couldn’t find his folder as if I never signed him up for camp.  But I felt in my spirit to be calm and be kind to her.

While waiting, God was showing me that my son was paying attention to everything that was going on.  If I had gotten angry and acted out, my son would have started his first day of summer camp with the same angry energy, probably feeling confused and not knowing what to do with or about these feelings that I had given him.  We have to be mindful about how we behave in front of our children.  We are their first teachers, their first role models.  Thank you Lord for showing me that!

Despite the way she was treating me, I answered her very nicely and waited patiently. Now look at God….while this woman is telling me she doesn’t know my sons name, 3 different young ladies who work for the summer camp came out at different times and they all knew my sons name and stated they saw his folder when they were setting up.   One of the young ladies goes inside to look for the folder and comes back with it saying she found it and everything is accounted for and he is all set!

I was thinking…”Wow God, look how you did that, this woman was sure my son wasn’t signed up but you sent 3 different people who knew his name!”  What the enemy meant for evil, God made it for good! (Genesis 50:20)

We walked into the building, I pulled my son aside and prayed with him for covering through his day and I watched him go into his room.  God gave me peace throughout my day, and I know it was because I chose to follow His will by reacting in a Christ like manner.  I chose to show them the God in me instead of get upset and yelling and cussing folks.  I refuse to allow the devil to use me in any way.  I don’t entertain his antics.

The other situation was during my lunch break.  I ordered a dish, but first asked if there was meat in it, I don’t eat pork.  She said there wasn’t but when I got back to my desk, opened up the box…there was bacon in it! My first thought was to be aggravated and bring it back to them!!!  But on my way over, my spirit reminded me that a soft answer turns away wrath.  I brought it back to the store and approached the cashier to explain what happened.  That didn’t go well because she didn’t speak English LOL so I went looking for a manager.  This guy said he was the manger but when I asked him again, he really wasn’t the manager LOL (these are all lil situations that should get me even more worked up to be angry, right?!) I asked if he could help me, and explained my situation in a calm and kind way.  I walked out of that restaurant not with my small order I originally wanted but a LARGE order of something else!

I’m sharing this to help you to choose to imitate Christ.  Reacting to situations with anger or frustration is to react in your emotions.  When we react in our emotions, the end result is never good.  I pray this will also help you to see the many ways throughout our day that we can choose God.

For some of us, this may be a bit difficult at first because we are used to reacting in a rough manner.  You don’t have to choose that way.  You can choose a gentle answer, a soft answer.  You wouldn’t believe how easily that will calm down a situation and how pleased God will be of your effort.  God will jump to attention and move on your behalf when he sees that you are choosing His way. If you forget the first few times, its ok…tell God your sorry for reacting that way, pray and try again.

The only way we can know if we are staying in the will of God and living a life that pleases Him is by knowing what He expects of us, knowing the promises He has set aside for us, knowing his Word.  Read your bible.

Proverbs 51:1 ~ a soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.

One step at a time, one day at a time.  Every day is a new day to make positive change in your life.

I’ve posted a survey I found online asking you questions about Christlike attributes. Sit for a moment and take the survey/quiz. Sit where you are in this area. It’s exercises like this that help you to gauge and see where yo are in your Christian walk. We need to assess and stay accountability like this often.

Thank you to ideadoor.com for the image and courtneyaitken.blogpost.com for the surveys

Know yourself!

I was watching a Periscope awhile back of Daniel Stombaugh and he asked the question,

What is your identity?

He said “know who you are TO God and know who you are IN God”

And I kept repeating it over and over in my mind.

Know who you are to God.

Know who you are in God.

Many of us know who we are at work, right? We know our job function and what is expected of us. Know how to get to work, what time to be there and how to get our paycheck.

Many of us know who we are at home, right? Know our role as a parent, as home owner, as a husband, as a wife, as a child (well most times we do LOL).  We know where everything is and pretty much how to use it.  We even know how to walk to the bathroom in the dark.

In all our common knowledge and intellect, we are pretty comfortable.

But when you think about the things of God, what don’t we know?

Do we really know who we are to God? Do we really know how much He loves us?  Do we really understand the sacrifice that was made for us?  Are we totally conscious of His mercy?

Being loved by someone is a powerful motivator. It can give you an inner strength; it can give you a reason to wake up in the morning.  It can change your moods and brighten your days.  This is what God wants to be to us.  We also want to hear someone say I Love You!  Oh boy that would really take us over the edge. LOL and yet God does that every day…all day.  Are we paying attention?  God is love and that love is shown thru the beauty of nature and the fact that we open our eyes each day.  We are the apple of His eye.  A special people to Him.  He is longsuffering, which means he waits and waits and waits and waits for us to come to Him, completely trust Him, because his wish is that none should perish.

Do you really know who you are in God? Where your strength comes from?  Who fights your battles?

Greater is He that is IN me than he that is in the world. (1 John 4:4)

Greater is the God in you than the devils in this world. You must remember that!

I believe having a solid understanding of what we mean to the Lord will help us to stay strong in Him. We won’t be so easily distracted by the enemy’s tactics, the depression, the hopelessness, the anxiety, the worry, the defeat that the enemy tries to lay upon us.  If we truly could understand how loved we are we could be stronger in our fight against the enemy.  The enemy should not be able to so easily get us off course, change our moods, or tempt us, get into our thoughts and change our atmosphere.  God did not create us to be led by the enemy or his tricks; God created us to be led by His Spirit!

KNOW WHO YOU ARE IN HIM!  YOUR IDENTITY IS IN GOD, YOUR IDENTITY IS IN CHRIST.

Daniel Stombaugh also said something else in his Periscope that moved me….

Knowing your IDENTITY always brings your purpose.

So if you’re not sure where you fit in, how God wants to use you, or what your purpose is, figure out your identity in God. Seek ye first the kingdom of God and all His righteousness and ALL these things will be added unto you.  (Matthew 6:33)  Which means….seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.

How can you NOT acknowledge the Creator of your life in all that you do? What would make you think you should live this life never once giving honor to the one who gave you life?  We will love everything around us except God.

Jeremiah 1:5 says, “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart”

Luke 12:7 says,” And the very hairs on your head are all numbered. So don’t be afraid; you are more valuable to God than a whole flock of sparrows.”

Before you were formed, God placed purpose in you and God knows how many hairs are on your head! He is that intimate with you, knows that much about you.

Let me remind you that you were created with a PURPOSE but you have to make the effort to seek God to find what your purpose is. If you want it, go get it!

Press into God even more so that you can be more intimate with Him. In His presence is assurance, confidence, love, peace and your identity.  Get to know Him, so you can know yourself.

I encourage you to get to know God on a more personal level this year. And if you’re not sure where to start in that relationship…reach out to me.  I will help you.

I’m praying for and with you.